Mars - Saturn Aspects in Synastry: Relationship Astrology
When Mars in one person's chart
forms an aspect to their partner's Saturn, special handling is
required. The hard aspects in particular can be very
The conjunction of Mars and
Saturn in synastry is best understood when you consider the
individual energies of these two planets. The qualities of the
sign that Saturn occupies points to expressions that do not come
naturally to Saturn. Saturn feels awkward or inhibited expressing
the energies of the sign, and often will try to compensate by
trying to exercise control over these characteristics in his or her
personality. In contrast, the characteristics of the sign that
Mars occupies are expressed fully, naturally, and with enthusiasm!
You can only imagine what this means in a relationship. If both
individuals are considerate of each other, and are
growth-oriented, the relationship can be a great learning
experience. For example, if the conjunction occurs in Aries, the
Mars individual will take action, and express his or her "me-first"
tendency freely and unabashedly. Aries, quite simply, comes
naturally to Mars! Saturn, on the other hand, feels unnatural
expressing these traits. Perhaps Saturn feels guilty when taking
the lead. Where Mars rushes right in, Saturn carefully appraises
the situation before he goes into it, if he doesn't withdraw from
it altogether. Mars can have much to learn from SaturnMars can
learn how to think a little before acting, and tone down his or her aggressiveness
and impatience. As well, Saturn has much to learn from Mars.
Saturn may secretly long to be just like Mars, going after what it
wants without fear of failure.
On the other hand, if Mars is not
sensitive to Saturn's feelings of inadequacy, he or she may simply
assert independence, tease Saturn for being inept or withdrawn,
and run roughshod over Saturn's feelings. Similarly, if Saturn
doesn't want to face up to his or her own feelings of inadequacy,
may do everything in their power to bring Mars down, control Mars,
and limit Mars' expression.
When Mars squares, quincunxes, or
opposes Saturn in synastry, this second scenario is quite likely.
At the beginning of the relationship, Saturn is often unfettered
by Mars' energy, and may even find it attractive. With time,
Saturn becomes annoyed with Mars' seeming lack of discipline and
"childishness". How Saturn handles this will be very
important. Unfortunately, very often the Saturn native uses subtle
ways to undermine the Mars native's confidence. Saturn attempts to
control Mars by limiting, blocking, and undermining Mars. Mars
feels like he or she is always in the wrong in Saturn's eyes. When
Mars laughs naturally and freely, Saturn stares at Mars with a
superior look, as if Mars is being foolish. Saturn may criticize
Mars for everything from the way Mars dresses to how he or she
behaves with others. Saturn perceives Mars as over-confident and
frivolous, gets annoyed at the drop of a hat, and lets Mars know,
either with direct criticism or a general air of disapproval. For
a while, Mars tries to win back Saturn's favor. After all, the
very traits that Saturn seemed to love about Mars at the beginning
of the relationship have turned into things to criticize. The
nature of Mars is rather aggressive, however, so this period will
likely be short-lived. Mars will then become angry at Saturn for
all of Saturn's overly-serious behavior and disapproval. Mars may
rebel and flaunt themselves before Saturn, which in turn makes
Saturn feel all the more need to inhibit and restrict Mars. Can
you see where this is going? The relationship has turned into
living hell. Any latent aggressive tendencies in either individual
become larger than life. At the very least, verbal abusiveness can
result. Physical aggression is sometimes the next step if these
discordant energies get out of hand. Eventually, Mars will want to
leave, which can anger Saturn even more. These aspects
require special handling, and both parties should be
growth-oriented in order to manage the discordant energies.
The trine and sextile create a
different energy. There is a constancy and predictability in the
Saturn person that Mars finds very attractive. At restless times in our lives, however, predictability can sometimes be equated with boredom. However,
much of the time, Mars takes comfort in the knowledge that
Saturn's passions are really quite constant. The Mars person knows that
Saturn will be there when needed. Mars can depend on Saturn. This aspect
can be a very stabilizing one. Predictability and dependability are virtues that can sometimes be overshadowed by more glamorous "features" of relationships, and it is normal for these qualities to be undervalued from time to time. However, it's also a good idea to take the time every now and again to appreciate the overall stability of your relationship. At times,
Mars may feel a little self-conscious about introducing new ways of doing things, particularly in the bedroom, as a result of
Saturn's constancy. However, Mars may be surprised to find a warm audience in
Saturn, and Saturn is likely to appreciate the Mars individual's initiative, perceiving
him or her to be a masterful initiator. Much will depend, however,
on the condition of Mars and Saturn natally.
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Recommended and related reading:
Synastry: Understanding Human
Notes: This classic by Ronald Davison
presents the cross-aspects of each planet in synastry.
The interpretations are insightful and warmly written.
Saturn: A New Look at an Old Devil
Liz Greene's book about Saturn includes Saturn in synastry.